"Living For The Lord Single"

Faith Alice, November 10, 2001

God wants to give us a fulfilling life, Satan wants just the opposite. Some Christians feel their life will not be complete without a mate. This is Satan's lie. Single adults - whether never married, widowed, or divorced - are whole persons in themselves and God can use us in many ways to build His kingdom.


Over the last 2 years I have spent much time in bible study concerning marriage, divorce, and marriage after divorce. Being divorced myself this seemed important information to me. Not wanting to be "single" the rest of my life. Wanting a partner in my new life with Christ. I had a strong desire to know what God wanted for me and "of me" in the area of marriage particularly. I did not want to make the same errors of the past.

It wasn't until just a few days ago that He made it clear to me. I guess you could say I was "putting the cart before the horse". God wants me to be happy in my life as it is now, this is where He has put me, and to grow from that point - in His time! As a result the following are some tips I think might be helpful for the
"Single Christian".


Tricks Satan will use against Single Christians

1 Corinthians 7:32-35 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

Truthfully - what is more important?
Serving the Lord at the same time we serve a wife or husband. Or serving the Lord completely. Singleness can be a gift from God. Time spent otherwise can be concentrated on the work and learning of the Lord.

*No human can give you worth or value. Single people are complete so to prepare for marriage become the mightiest single person you can be for Jesus!
Colossians 2:10 And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power:

*Marriage is not God's ultimate will for your life,
it's to be like Jesus.
Romans 8:29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.

*Your singleness is a state of choice. You could have married someone without the high standards of a Christian but you haven't. You have chosen to wait on the Lord rather than to lower your standards.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

Scriptures of Encouragement

Proverbs 19:21
There are many devices in a man's heart;
nevertheless the counsel of the LORD,
that shall stand.

Psalm 138:8
The LORD will perfect that which concerneth me:
thy mercy, O LORD, endureth for ever:
forsake not the works of thine own hands.

Isaiah 30:21
And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.

Isaiah 62:5
For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.

Zephaniah 3:14-17
Sing, O daughter of Zion; shout, O Israel; be glad and rejoice with all the heart, O daughter of Jerusalem. The LORD hath taken away thy judgments, he hath cast out thine enemy: the king of Israel, even the LORD, is in the midst of thee: thou shalt not see evil any more. In that day it shall be said to Jerusalem, Fear thou not: and to Zion, Let not thine hands be slack. The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing.

1 Corinthians 6:17-20
But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

2 Timothy 2:22
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness,
faith, charity, peace, with them that call
on the Lord out of a pure heart.

Psalm 62:5
My soul, wait thou only upon God;
for my expectation is from him.

1 Timothy 6:6
But godliness with contentment is great gain.

Philippians 1:6
Being confident of this very thing,
that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

Philippians 4:12-13
I know both how to be abased,
and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Proverbs 16:3
Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Prayer:
Lord, thank you that I am complete in you. Thank you that you are molding me into your image. Thank you for your mercy and grace that enable me to keep myself pure. My desire is to please you more than anyone; help me to do that, Father. Help me to be happy and joyful right where you have me. Help me to walk in your ways and be willing to wait for your timing in everything I do. If a mate is in your plans for me, send that one you have created just for me, in Your image, striving to be like Jesus. If not, may I know that whatever you have planned for me is better than what I could come up with for myself. If there are relationships in my life that you want me to end, please show me these clearly and give me the strength to do your will. Help me to walk in victory, with my life showing the fruits of the Holy Spirit. I want your purposes to be fulfilled in me. You Father are the potter and I am the clay, please mold me into what you would have me be,
in Jesus' name I pray, Amen.